Fiona,
I think all the confusion was because the dr really hadn't come across HD before and was just going off the information they had available.
Actually, the first thing the counsellor mentioned when they called was that my blood had been received for the test, but the results weren't yet known (either that or the sample hadn't yet gone for testing; it's a few years ago now), and in order to find out there was the process of several sessions and a neurological examination etc. I can't remember if I was concerned about getting the call - I don't think I had time to even think "I must be gene positive" before things were explained

I was given the opportunity to halt the testing at any time, and they asked again specifically before the blood was actually tested. The process was very thorough and I for one found it a good experience, overall.
Fiona, I'll be thinking of your son (and you and your extended family too) as he does the testing. Best wishes for the best outcome for him...
Sal